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Communication
Haven't blogged in awhile. Went to Xavier's place for a BBQ yesterday. Think i'm going to get cancer. After watching Grey's, i seem to think every pain in my body is linked to some disease needing surgery. Its great to catch up with your frens once in awhile. Haven't seen the PTIs for some time. Nothing has changed. Jokes still the same but still as funny.

Went to camp to play soccer today. Got PSed by Xavier. Seems like there's a lot of tension between people at KFCC. First Parade everyday now. People don't seem happy with each other. Somehow i feel after the 84th batch orded all the teamwork and working together just ceased to exist anymore. Think its cos of communication.

Grey's : Communication. Its the first thing we really learn in life. Funny thing is, once we grow up, learn our words and really start talking, the harder it becomes to know what to say, or how to ask for what we really need. At the end of the day, there're some things that you can't help but talk about. Some things we just don't want to hear. And some things we say cos we just can't be silent any longer. Some things are more than what u say, they're what you do. Some things you say cos there's no other choice. Some things u keep to yourself. And not too often, but every now and then, some things simply speak for themselves.

I'm sure at some point of time in everyone's life, they have felt like they can't really say what's on their mind. We all think critically of people now and then, especially of those different from us. However, growing up has made us more us more sensitive to the feelings of the people around us. We are afraid of how our frens would react if they hear what's really on our minds. We're afraid our superiors would think less of us if said how we really feel. If only everybody could say what they really feel without fear of repercussions, then there would be transparency.

It isn't always nice to hear how other people feel, especially when their opinions differ from yours. We're all brought up in different environments, different cultures, different lifestyles hence leading to our differences in opinions. Do not get upset if someone says something that u don't wanna hear. It is his point of view and people are entitled to their own opinions. You might not agree with him, but you should know that he doesn't agree with you either. And that's the thing you both have in common. Communication is important. Be it relationships, frenship or just work, if people are to survive together, they must talk to each other. Way before Man discovered how to start a fire, they learnt to communicate. Actually i just made that up, but i think its logical right?? How to work together to start a fire if you don't communicate?

Maybe that's the reason why relationships fail, why tension rises in offices and why misunderstandings happen between close frens. Even a tiny problem can cause a rift between 2 people if the tiny problem isn't solved in time. Like cancer really.. It gets worse the longer u let it drag. But on a lighter note, i don't think there's anything that can't be worked out between people. Maybe a little compromise here, a little sacrifice there, but if you value your relationship with the people around you, i'm sure it wouldn't be too difficult.

To my lovesick fren who said you scared the love flame relight (sorry man.. this is too funny.. i must blog to rmb it.. dun be xiao qi k haha), congrats on taking the 1st step. Lying on your bed wondering if you should have called her is not going to do you any good. There's nothing wrong with feeling a little awkward after so long. But you still shouldn't avoid talking the good times u had together. It was fun. Nothing wrong with remembering something good. Once you can joke about the times u had without feeling sad, you can safely say you have moved on. Nobody knows what will happen in the future. We could all die tommorow. But how about we all be a little optimistic and convince ourselves that there will be better days.

Quote of the week : Don't be scared that the love flame relight